Have you ever watched a Jack Russell Terrier go after something?
Like that little bundle of energy has seemingly never ending doggedness.
Today is Trait Talk:
Yesterday, we mentioned self-discipline. It is a hard skill to master.
No matter what you are doing in life. Professionally, personally, emotionally, physically… self-discipline is called on: but, there are many times it just doesn’t show up.
Or, it shows up and the inner resistance has other ideas about the situation.
The resistance is your self-loathing, self-sabotage voice. It’s not a truthful voice, it’s the voice of fear deep inside you. It fears failure. And, you see, if you don’t start something, you can’t see if you fail at it. So, the resistance whispers loudly in your inner ear: ‘you don’t really want to do that, now, do you?’
If you want to know more about “the resistance,” check out some of these quotes from Steven Pressfield’s “The War of Art” (or his other books “Do the Work.” or “Turning Pro” as they all address this concept):
“Procrastination is the most common manifestation of Resistance because it’s the easiest to rationalize. We don’t tell ourselves, “I’m never going to write my symphony.” Instead we say, “I am going to write my symphony; I’m just going to start tomorrow.””
“The counterfeit innovator is wildly self-confident. The real one is scared to death.”
Steven says that many people have talent, but few put in the work and follow through.
If you’re struggling with self-doubt, procrastination, or just plain self-sabotage, it’s up to you to face your inner resistance.
“Grandiose fantasies are a symptom of Resistance. They’re the sign of an amateur. The professional has learned that success, like happiness, comes as a by-product of work.”
Seth Godin also references facing the resistance in his latest book, “The Practice.”
“The more important the project we take on, the more difficult it is to find certainty that our work will succeed before we begin. We can begin with this: If we failed, would it be worth the journey? Do you trust yourself enough to commit to engaging with a project regardless of the chances of success?”
So, how do you commit?
Most of us would believe we lean into our talents and let them pave the way.
Turns out, Seth thinks otherwise.
“Talent is something we’re born with: it’s in our DNA, a magical alignment of gifts. But skill? Skill is earned. It’s learned and practiced and hard-won. It’s insulting to call a professional talented. She’s skilled, first and foremost. Many people have talent, but only a few care enough to show up fully, to earn their skill. Skill is rarer than talent. Skill is earned. Skill is available to anyone who cares enough.”
“If you are using outcomes that are out of your control as fuel for your work, it’s inevitable that you will burn out.”
Resistance doesn’t go away. Self-sabotage does not disappear. We still have to face them and we still have to overcome them.
So, how do we face the resistance?